Befriending Our "Beautiful Monsters": A Guided Practice to Work with Difficult Emotions

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Tsoknyi Rinpoche

Befriending Our "Beautiful Monsters": A Guided Practice to Work with Difficult Emotions

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What You'll Learn

  • Explore how “being with” difficult emotions with non-judgmental, compassionate, embodied awareness allows them to naturally open and transform, revealing the innate well-being and “essence love” at the core of our beings

  • Understand how the cognitive mind can keep us trapped in cycles of emotional struggle by trying to fix, change, ignore, or run away from what we are feeling, rather than meeting it with direct kind awareness

  • Be led in a guided practice to help you work with difficult emotions and connect with your grounded body, open heart, and clear mind

About Tsoknyi Rinpoche

For over 25 years Tsoknyi Rinpoche has been teaching students worldwide about the innermost nature of mind in the Tibetan Buddhist tradition. Widely recognized as an outstanding meditation teacher, he is the author of three books: Open Heart, Open Mind, Carefree Dignity, and Fearless Simplicity. Tsoknyi Rinpoche teaches worldwide at more than 50 retreat centers, and his most current humanitarian project is completing a large school for impoverished young girls in Nepal with both Western and traditional buddhist educational curriculums. Rinpoche has a keen interest in the ongoing dialogue between western research, especially in neuroscience, and Buddhist practitioners and scholars.

You can learn more about his work on his website and the Tsoknyi Humanitarian Foundation. You can also enroll in his Fully Being online course.

About Daniel Goleman, PhD

Daniel Goleman is an internationally known psychologist and science journalist. His 1995 book, Emotional Intelligence was a bestseller and has been translated into more than 40 languages. His most recent book, Altered Traits, was co-authored with Richard Davidson and reviews the best meditation research. Dan has also organized a series of intensive conversations between the Dalai Lama and scientists, which resulted in the books Healing Emotions, Destructive Emotions, and Ecology, Ethics, and Interdependence. For the Dalai Lama’s 80th birthday Dan wrote A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama’s Vision for our World. He is a former board member and a Founding Steward of the Mind & Life Institute.

You can learn more about Dr. Goleman's work on his website.

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  1. Lucia Cañizares May 4, 2021 at 5:09 pm - Reply

    Wonderful!!! Little by little Rinpoche’ concepts open myself, I love his analogies, with body gestures and his caring for humanity. Now I am going to practice until I relate to my monsters, then smooth mi mind which is very critical.

  2. Ann May 4, 2021 at 5:34 pm - Reply

    Thank you deeply for this time together & sharing your knowledge.

  3. Amy May 4, 2021 at 6:41 pm - Reply

    This is the most helpful talk I have ever heard in my life. This is an amazingly insightful, beautiful talk. I feel so grateful. I have worked with feelings for so very long. This is liberation. With gratitude and love.

  4. patricia May 4, 2021 at 6:50 pm - Reply

    Gracias!! Gracias!! Gracias!!!!

  5. Yin May 4, 2021 at 7:16 pm - Reply

    “Being is making connection.” Tq so much, Rinpoche. May you be well and happy. Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu!

  6. Kathleen Ryan May 4, 2021 at 8:08 pm - Reply

    Amazing information and presented with clarity, humor and essence of love. Thank you!

  7. Evelina May 4, 2021 at 9:18 pm - Reply

    Concrete and clear. Good sense of humour! thank you!!!!!

  8. sandra bain May 4, 2021 at 9:28 pm - Reply

    This was very beautiful and now I am not afraid of the negative that will come up and it is all suppose to be. Now I know I don’t stress the mind to fix it, just open and love it and nature it and send compassion to it. Thank you very much

  9. sandra bain May 4, 2021 at 9:53 pm - Reply

    Really enjoyed your simplicity of helping us too deal with difficult situations and thoughts. As I have PTSS, I do believe I would need to do this work with a Somanic Practitioner . Your thoughts?
    And how could I obtain a copy of this meditation and interview? Blessings to you.

  10. Inmaculada May 4, 2021 at 10:02 pm - Reply

    Thank you, Tsoknyi, I have a wonderful meditation, loving my beautiful Monster. Thank you deeply!

  11. Haila Hafley-Kluver May 4, 2021 at 10:12 pm - Reply

    Okayness = good enough …

  12. Haila Hafley-Kluver May 4, 2021 at 10:21 pm - Reply

    Thank you … to showing me about my beautiful monster. Okayness is good enough

  13. Sher May 5, 2021 at 12:06 am - Reply

    Totally enjoying and benefiting from these presentations! They are filled with all of the best things in life! Thank you for these jewels!! Infinite blessings!! <3 🙂

  14. Tran H May 5, 2021 at 1:35 am - Reply

    The most beautiful talking I have heart. I will stay in every moment grounded body, open heart and clear mind. Thank you so much 🙂

  15. Nicole May 5, 2021 at 2:01 am - Reply

    thank you so much : to be ok myself with myself first, with love, whatever the feeling is !

  16. Anne May 5, 2021 at 2:37 am - Reply

    I feel my heart open and full of love while listening :). Thank you

  17. Susanna May 5, 2021 at 2:40 am - Reply

    Beautiful. Thank you.

  18. Hyacinth Ada Mariano May 5, 2021 at 3:04 am - Reply

    I am crying on how beautiful is this talk. Thank you thank you I am forever grateful for this. 🙏🏽

  19. Helen MacWhite May 5, 2021 at 4:20 am - Reply

    I cannot thank you enough, Rinpoche, for guiding us through this beautiful practice. It has come at a very apt time. My beautiful monster has been calling to me for some time, getting louder and louder and causing more and more disturbances. I have never been able to sit with it skilfully enough to see it fully. I was really able to listen and to sit fully in its energy with the help of your guidance. Thank you for the freedom in my heartspace!

  20. Manuela May 5, 2021 at 5:28 am - Reply

    Wonderful. Thank you so much from Italy.

  21. aytac tuzmen May 5, 2021 at 5:41 am - Reply

    quick question: in a situation where a child is in stress (like crying / unhapply) in a disturbing emotion – at that moment what should I do? I will approach in a calm matter thats for sure..but I am a little bit confused, Shall I try to calm him down by letting him to talk about his feelings or? or wait and let this emotion pass away and then talk about it.. sometimes talking about his feeling makes him exaggerate his feelings..
    for my son, I just want to know the best way to handle this kind of situations.

    • Chenise knox June 16, 2021 at 3:50 am - Reply

      Depending on how old your child is, they may not have the language to genuinely describe their feelings, and/or understanding of what they are feeling. To ask them to do this is distressing if that is the case. I have four children aged 15 to 1 years, and I personally find it is just better and probably more in line with this practice also to just sit with them quietly through whatever it is, give reassurance that it will pass and they are in fact ok, it’s just a feeling, and explain that you want to listen and help wherever you can. Don’t try to distract them or tell them not to cry or “don’t get mad” as this is denying them the acceptance of their emotions, just be there in the moment with them and be there for them when they need you

  22. Dr. Jaya Mohan May 5, 2021 at 5:43 am - Reply

    Gratitude for introducing ways to handle our ‘Beautiful Monster’. This was so helpful.

  23. Ola Tornberg May 5, 2021 at 5:51 am - Reply

    Thank you for this clear and warm presentation. It made me smile from my heart.

  24. Anjali May 5, 2021 at 7:05 am - Reply

    Beautifully explained about the communication one should have with our to behave with the beautiful monster( well personified) Thank you Rinpocheji

  25. Linda May 5, 2021 at 7:47 am - Reply

    Thank you 🙏

  26. Ana May 5, 2021 at 7:54 am - Reply

    Wonderful!!!!! Great explanation

  27. Charmaine May 5, 2021 at 9:13 am - Reply

    Dear Tsoknyi Rinpoche, Thank-you so very much for your warmth, your sense of humour 😉 and wonderful Monster Befriending Ourselves Meditation Guide, I felt an instant shift of okay-ness with ‘my crocodiles’ 😉 and BEING with the sensations of what was arising and falling during the meditation dropping deep into the body awareness of the felt sense. May I not turn away from suffering “my crocodiles” energy and that of another suffering in front of me off the cushion in daily life interactions, thank-you so very much for the ‘hand shake’ willingness offering of how to work with difficult monsters 😉 mine, yours and others, for the benefit of ALL BEINGS. Deep Bow, appreciation and devotion to ending suffering in this world. May we all live and die peacefully.
    Thank-you very much Awake Network for this opportunity to MEET Tsoknyi Rinpoche and everyone else, deep appreciation for this summit, May you all be well and blessed with good health and wellbeing all year round.

  28. Molly May 5, 2021 at 9:31 am - Reply

    Thank you! I wonder if the beautiful monster is similar to the “pain body” that Ekhart Tolle talks about often?

  29. Ellen Palmer May 5, 2021 at 9:45 am - Reply

    Thank you! This is just what I needed at this exact moment. I look forward to continuing the practice. Blessings!

  30. Antje May 5, 2021 at 9:52 am - Reply

    Very, very helpful!! A big thank you!!!

  31. Stucki Marianne May 5, 2021 at 10:13 am - Reply

    Dear Tsoknyi Rinpoche,
    So absolutely beautiful, thank you so much for this lecture. I am very touched.
    Marianne from Switzerland.

  32. Shuchita May 5, 2021 at 10:57 am - Reply

    Beautiful description and wonderful practice. Very clarifying, genuine and real. thank you.

  33. FloW May 5, 2021 at 2:08 pm - Reply

    “…good analyzed kind of german mind…” – very nice, thank you Tsoknyi Rinpoche! Still laughing about that one. And still searchin my Nepal heart…
    with love from Landau, Germany, Florian 🙏

  34. Sophie Seex May 5, 2021 at 2:21 pm - Reply

    Just wonderful – a deep bow to you 🙂

  35. Ingrid Otepka May 5, 2021 at 2:35 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much! It was wonderful practice for me, and I got a deeper understanding of how we really can transform our beautiful monsters. Thank you deeply for your generosity

  36. Travis Barker May 5, 2021 at 3:10 pm - Reply

    Accepting and embracing the difficult emotions instead of resisting them. Still dukkha, but less dukkha. More insightful, eventually.

  37. Sofia ochoa May 5, 2021 at 6:06 pm - Reply

    thank you rimpoche
    beautifully explained

  38. April Lies May 5, 2021 at 8:51 pm - Reply

    I was so appreciative of this talk, so well organized and paced, and full of very clear helpful teachings. I loved it so much I actually watched it twice!! Thank you Rimpoche, I am so happy you are offering this way- I have new excitement about practicing with this.

  39. Polly Hansen May 6, 2021 at 9:41 am - Reply

    Oh god, he is darling! I love his practice, kindness, simplicity, authenticity, humor. Such a wonderful, human teacher. I hold my beautiful monsters dear, honor them, and respect them. That is how they have transformed into kind friends, teaching me compassion and wholeness.

  40. Tenzin Lhadzom May 8, 2021 at 4:40 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much dear Rinpoche.🙏🏽 May you live a long, happy, healthy life and continue to benefit all sentient beings.🙏🏽

  41. D.S. Yvon May 9, 2021 at 9:36 am - Reply

    This is a treat! Thank you for teaching us how to handle beautiful monsters 🙂

  42. Maret May 9, 2021 at 2:00 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much dear Rinpoche.
    Maret Rummo

  43. Diane Boehm May 9, 2021 at 8:04 pm - Reply

    I have returned to watch this interview with Tsoknyi Rinpoche because he impacted me so deeply. I have so much to learn and practice in befriending and being with my beautiful monsters. This is so hopeful for me to find a teacher who talks so clearly about all my different and failed techniques. I am open and hungry to learn more. Thank you Tsoknyi Rinpoche for being who you are, teacher, guide, and compassionate, wise and humorous human being.

  44. Colette May 9, 2021 at 8:23 pm - Reply

    Absolute genius, lovingly delivered with humour. What more could you ask? Tsokyni Rinpoche embodies that which he teaches. I look forward to signing up for his online course. I am certain I can learn much more from this kind and gentle soul. Thank you so much for sharing this wisdom with the Summit!

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